So, I know I’m super late, but I am currently obsessed with the song All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor. Why? Well, for one I like the little doo-wop type beat that makes me want to go to a sock hop followed by a trip to the malt shop. But also because these are the lyrics:

“Yeah, it’s pretty clear, I ain’t no size two
But I can shake it, shake it
Like I’m supposed to do
‘Cause I got that boom boom that all the boys chase
And all the right junk in all the right places…..

Yeah, my mama she told me don’t worry about your size
She says, ‘Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.’
You know I won’t be no stick figure silicone Barbie doll
So if that’s what you’re into then go ahead and move along…….

I’m bringing booty back
Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches that
No I’m just playing. I know you think you’re fat
But I’m here to tell ya
Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top”

As someone who has been on a roller coaster ride with my own body over the last decade, I definitely feel the message. I’ve gone from 160 to 210 and everywhere in between.  And lets not talk about how I hit the 250 mark while pregnant with my big-headed son.

Even still, I don’t think I ever really felt “fat.” Not in the sense where I felt like my weight made me undesirable, except when I was dating my ex and he told me he’d wife me if I made it down to 160. (I did, after he dumped me. Haha!) And to be perfectly honest, I never felt like I was curvy enough. In my culture, curves are the norm, the standard of beauty. Compared to other Black women, my booty is flat. However, hold my body in a white light and I’m fat. Even now at my smallest. A size 8. I’d need to drop another 30 pounds if I wanted to live up to white beauty standards.

And that is why I feel bad for white women. In their culture, a little meat on their bones is a turn off. Just reading some of the comments left on Meghan Trainor’s video can tell you that. And Meghan isn’t even all that big. She’s about the same size as the Black women in her video who most Black people would say have nice bodies. You tell me. Watch the video and see for yourself. I’m not saying the girl is super bad, kinda average looking, but I would never call her fat. Apparently, many commenters beg to differ.

I know every culture is different. I’m sure somewhere there’s a white woman who feels sad about Black women’s desire to perm their hair. Luckily that trend is dying quickly. I hope for the sake of the majority of white women who aren’t sizes 0-6, this trend of skinny being the beauty standard dies off too. Maybe this explains why so many Black men date white women. They appreciate their curves more. Who knows? What I do know is that it’s all quite funny that white women have to live up to that standard even though white men have been so obsessed with Black women’s curvy bodies that they slept with us even when we gave them no consent to do so. Go figure.

I think the overall message here is to be happy with your body and screw men. Obviously, this is somehow all their fault.